Thursday, December 01, 2005
Ask, ask, ask
First ask yourself, then ask people around you.
During this coming Festive Season, many people, mainly women, go on a frenzy of busyness. So many things to do, so little time I hear women say. When I suggest that there may be another way, they don't see how.
Are you one of these people who keep on explaining that you are tired because of all that needs to be done in this Season? What can you ask yourself? Tell yourself the truth about why you put yourself through the wringer every year. Is it out of pure love or does it have to do with keeping up with your neighbour, your sister, your crowd? Do you get some validation by doing so much? Ouch! Being honest about our motivation can help keep us sane.
Then ask your loved ones what is really important for them during this Season. Would they prefer less home-baked cookies and meat pies and a less tired you? Are they willing to give a hand if they want it all?
I know that during some years, in the past, I have also been so proud to have produced home made tourtières and cookies and fruitcake but it lasted only a few short years. I realized that my children did not really care whether the food came from the store or from the hands of their tired mother. The fact that my own working mother made her first pie at sixty also gave me some good examples about not slaving in the kitchen when I can be reading a good book.
Have a great day
Your coach
Marguerite Tennier
http://www.canadascoach.com
During this coming Festive Season, many people, mainly women, go on a frenzy of busyness. So many things to do, so little time I hear women say. When I suggest that there may be another way, they don't see how.
Are you one of these people who keep on explaining that you are tired because of all that needs to be done in this Season? What can you ask yourself? Tell yourself the truth about why you put yourself through the wringer every year. Is it out of pure love or does it have to do with keeping up with your neighbour, your sister, your crowd? Do you get some validation by doing so much? Ouch! Being honest about our motivation can help keep us sane.
Then ask your loved ones what is really important for them during this Season. Would they prefer less home-baked cookies and meat pies and a less tired you? Are they willing to give a hand if they want it all?
I know that during some years, in the past, I have also been so proud to have produced home made tourtières and cookies and fruitcake but it lasted only a few short years. I realized that my children did not really care whether the food came from the store or from the hands of their tired mother. The fact that my own working mother made her first pie at sixty also gave me some good examples about not slaving in the kitchen when I can be reading a good book.
Have a great day
Your coach
Marguerite Tennier
http://www.canadascoach.com
