Friday, May 20, 2005


Emotional Intelligence and a difficult boss

Work in itself can be stressful. The various demands on your days, the deadlines, too much to do in too little time. If you are also on the receiving end of a "boss from hell", you may need to seriously look for another job. In the meantime, you need to use your emotional intelligence to counteract this added stress and the accompanying anxiety. The worst mental space to be in is thinking that you are stuck in that job. Because a bad boss can demolish your confidence in very little time, your survival kit must be equal to or better.

If you are facing such a stress, decide whether the benefits of the job are worth staying. Do a cost analysis. Even if you don't plan to leave, keep your resume up to date and work your network. You may even apply for other jobs. That will help keep your confidence and who knows, you may find a great job, with a great boss.

In the meantime, find a healthy stress buster. Having a relaxation technique that you practice everyday, can help you survive stressful situations with less distress. The point is you need to practice it regularly, not just when you find yourself in overwhelm. Compare it to brushing your teeth every day, not just when you discover a cavity! Meditation is recognized as having incredible power in helping people to make lasting changes in the way they react to stress. Regular practice can reset your trigger point and help retrain your amygdala (part of the old brain).

Your coach
Marguerite Tennier, M.A.

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