Thursday, March 10, 2005
An Overachiever's day is never done
How do you know if you are an overachiever? You take on and work sixty-hour weeks to prove that you can do the job that has burned out three of your predecessors. You are proud for being such a trouper and never complaining. Inside you fear that you are not quite good enough. You persevere even when the boat is taking you under.
You avoid feeling. You stay in your head until you need some relief and often find the relief in another "thing" - be it tv,noise, shopping, a bigger car or a McHouse or some other substance. And the relief is short-lived. Then you beat yourself up.
It's not the time to beat yourself up. Fear is clouding your judgment and preventing you to feel what's really happening. Individuals who constantly beat themselves up rarely "deserve" all that they are piling onto themselves. Yes, you may need to make some changes in how you do things, but there is nothing fundamentally wrong with "who" you are.
Marguerite Tennier, M.A.