Sunday, September 05, 2004
Relationships do need work
A relationship is like a fire - either a camp fire or a fire in the fireplace. You know you have to start the fire with small kindlings, maybe some paper to help create flames, then carefully place the large logs so as to give the fire enough space for oxygen and if you want the fire to last, you need to feed it. The wood you choose and the environment all play a part. Ever tried to start a camp fire with raging winds? It helps if you or your partner shields the wind.
Building and maintaining a relationship also requires some work. One of my professors, who had over thirty years experience as a marital therapist once said of relationships, "If at first it does not work, quit!" What he meant was that the start of a relationship should be easy and flow smoothly. However, once the first flames are decreasing, then, both partners need to take responsibility if they want the relationship to grow and keep them warm.
Do you work on your relationship or do you let your partner take care of that stuff? Do you do all the work on your relationship? Are you the emotional caretaker? Neither way works. Both partners need to put in their 100% to grow a healthy relationship.
Ready to start growing healthy relationships? Don't know how or where to start?
Call for a free consultation.
Marguerite Tennier
The coach who wants to change the world
One Man at a Time
http://www.canadascoach.com
Building and maintaining a relationship also requires some work. One of my professors, who had over thirty years experience as a marital therapist once said of relationships, "If at first it does not work, quit!" What he meant was that the start of a relationship should be easy and flow smoothly. However, once the first flames are decreasing, then, both partners need to take responsibility if they want the relationship to grow and keep them warm.
Do you work on your relationship or do you let your partner take care of that stuff? Do you do all the work on your relationship? Are you the emotional caretaker? Neither way works. Both partners need to put in their 100% to grow a healthy relationship.
Ready to start growing healthy relationships? Don't know how or where to start?
Call for a free consultation.
Marguerite Tennier
The coach who wants to change the world
One Man at a Time
http://www.canadascoach.com
