Thursday, August 19, 2004

 

Relationship Success stories - The power of coaching - suite

As promised, after a great three-day vacation at the lake, here is the other success story.
The prospective client had indicated on the prep form that relationships was the area she wanted to focus on if we were going to work together. When we got together on the phone, she shared that she and her husband had been married over 25 years. Over the last four years or so, they had parallel lives - without any emotional or physical intimacy. No fighting, but no talking either. She mentioned that divorce seemed the only solution. I questioned her and found that they had been very much in love at some point. She had truly loved him and felt he had also loved her very much. We spoke a little and I got the feeling that her husband was also pretty unhappy. I asked her if she was willing to be loving - to act lovingly with her husband that same evening when she got back from work. Being loving when people have not so much as touched for years can be difficult. A smile instead of a frown can be a start. She agreed that she was willing and chose to change one behaviour when she got the in the house that evening. This was a complimentary session but I asked her to let me know the next day what had happened. She did. She mentioned she had been scared - admitting that she is not comfortable with emotions - but she had followed through and MIRACLE, her husband responded. They actually spoke instead of growled at each other. She mentioned she woke up happy the next morning. I know that those two could use more coaching to revive their relationship further and I hope to have the chance to work with her at some point.
A similar story happened last summer - where after three months of coaching, a client who had scored between zero and one in terms of satisfaction about her marriage reported a seven, getting to an eight.

Marguerite Tennier, M.A.
The coach who wants to change the world,
One Man at a Time
http://www.canadascoach.com



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